Life experiences leave marks that can change our routes or put us back on our axis.
The good experiences feed our identity: they enlarge our wings and make us feel stronger, healthier and happier. The impulse they bring empowers us to plan, project, take action and risk, bulge our dreams, and even love more. But what about bad experiences? How do we deal with them? What places do we choose to go when experiences bring pain?
Hurtful experiences ruthlessly overwhelm our emotions, directing us to refuge in where we can cry without restraints, hide away from further sorrow, breath out from asphyxiating reality, feel sad with sense of righteousness, and harbor our integrity and dignity. These places provide us with temporary protection while we bandage the wounds and recuperate. But, what happens when these protective mechanisms cease to be temporary shelters to become our lifestyles? How many times do these mechanisms transform in dark places in where we constantly stand to justify our fears?
When we are not able to recognize our protective mechanisms as such, then we adopt them as modum vivendum because they function as analgesics. So, pain metamorphose into fears that easily camouflage behind a bad temper to put distance between us and the others, or they entrench under excessive consumption and restless activity to silence the anguish with adrenaline, or they nestle in isolation or remoteness to detach ourselves from reality, or they warrant as our bad luck to find quick meaning.
In the long run, these inner rooms over-furnish with agony and ignite desperation, anger, and desolation. Unconsciously, we slowly debilitate our freedom and essential pillars. And, our capability of choosing happiness trembles.
Many bad experiences take years to resolve and they call for laborious and subversive distressing processes. However, we will only heal if we are willing to detour from the claws of our dark places towards points of light from where we are able to clearly identify the best construction tools to make our lives healthier and happier.
Happiness is an everyday choice. Many times we say “I cannot”...but would it happen if we could?
Inés
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