Saturday, May 26, 2012

Tango: The Art of Togetherness


Claudia and I met at a tiny bohemian shop of Buenos Aires. We both share the same passion: Tango. She had come all the way from Switzerland to grasp on Tango to overcome a broken heart. For me, Tango is the door to fully feel my emotions and let go.

Is Tango a lost art as it is the art of living in company?

Dancing Tango walks ourselves intimately into quixotic conversations with those inner spins in need of amatory ballads that can only be possible through an intimate shared encounter of body, mind, and heart. 

Tango biggest challenge is to reach harmony by embracing the music in connection with the bodies. It is all about where the music takes you, how your senses are moved at the beat of its rhythm, and how you interpret the piece to create a deep but smooth dialogue with your partner.

The precision of its technique only comes with practice!

The woman and the man torsos need to be always facing at the same level, leaving enough space between each other to be able to create steps.  Feeling each other movements is the most significant skill in generating leading responses. Both bodies must be slightly leaning, supporting the weigh on each others’ hands at heart line.  This unnoticeable support, but yet crucial, is the axis from where both always depart and come back, and will secure the balance of each dancer needed when direction changes. 

Adornos or  firuletes (adornments) are what makes the Tango more attractive. However, it is essential to differentiate fantasy Tango (only danced in shows) from real Tango.  Fantasy Tango is filled with colossal and hypnotic movements that appeal at creating adrenaline shots to mostly attract the attention of the audience. On the other hand, every day or real Tango incorporates magical adornments but does not merely depend on them.

Each adorno or firulate must be performed with intention and determination. The man ‘marca’ (or leads) and the woman interprets the marca to perform a caresses (a gentle stroking with leg), an enganche or scoop (a little hook with the legs around the man’s thigh), or a cruzada or ocho (a figure in 8 shape where the man and woman mirror movements). None of these movements should entangle the dance; they should always appeal at pleasing the body need for expression and suiting the codes created by the couple. These codes are the guiding energy of the dance and they are generated from the complicity of the conversation the dancers have through the sentiment of the music.

From time to time, there may be amagues. Amagues are steps that threaten to move some direction but go the opposite, or threaten to advance but stay still. The amagues are meant to bring spice, assortment, or even glamour to the dance; but, if an amague is not understood as such by your partner, then the dance can perish.

Tango is the dance born from togetherness and the need to express its passion. Togetherness is the art to tango and its need of uniqueness and space for creativity within individuality.

What support do we stimulate or find so as to build genuine and long-lasting connections in this Internet-network culture that simultaneously facilitates getting lightly connected and easily disconnected with our emotions and other beings? How do we dance in a culture that does not value the art of being in company?

“The relationship to one's fellow man is the relationship of prayer, the relationship to oneself is the relationship of striving; it is from prayer that one draws the strength for one's striving. The indestructible is one: it is each individual human being and, at the same time, it is common to all, hence the incomparably indivisible union that exists between human beings.” (Franz Kafka)

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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Our Present: Living or Surviving?





Dwelling in the past can many times act as a shield that delays us from challenges, responsibilities, and commitment that our present feeds from.  Sheltering our  lamentations and dissatisfaction in the past can easily transform in a disengaged approach to our inconsistencies and fallacies, distancing us from change (the past moments will always feel better than our present!).
On the other hand, denying our past can cost our happiness and emotional health a high price. Not being able to make peace with hurtful background experiences will suffocate our choices at some point, without notice. Saving face to the past can easily make our biggest dreams panic. Past situations that have caused profound emotional wounds cannot be circumvented because they will subjugate the sense of meaning and purpose of our present.

But, how do we recognize ourselves denying our past or getting stuck in it from the need of embracing past open ends to complete ourselves? Psychologists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks ask “what past stops do we need to experience to refresh our present?”


Whenever embarking in a new phase, I had always chosen to treasure the best memories and continue without looking back. This perspective helps to disconnect from nostalgia and overcome pain since it makes the backpack lighter to grip the present with full energy. However, during my trip to Argentina, I have discovered that open ends of the past with our loved moments and people need our attention to renew the vows with the guiding standards that have happily built our identities. Yet, how often do we leave them unattended?


Sometimes, closing the loose ends require profound conversations. Other times, those ends simply close with a loving look, a strong hug, a smooth pat, or a shared laughing. 


Meeting my eighty year old grandmother after 15 years, connecting back through fun and authentic dialogues with friends, and sharing the complicity of our stories with my sister put me in contact with values that refreshed and repositioned my search.  These moments have the capacity of reminding us how good it feels to live in connection with affection within a support system, to be in communication with our needs and profound desires, and to express freely within a framework of knowledge, tolerance, and understanding.Our state of inner harmony nurtures our positive state of freedom, and our inner taskmasters such as ego and fear fade away regenerating our capacity to feel alive.


Living from the past is a barrier against growth. Covering the past can sink our future in unhappiness.  Refreshing from the past let our present live more focused and healthier. Is our past letting us survive in the present? Or, is our past nurturing us to live complete?


“It takes a special kind of courage to face and deal with our past incompletions. Often these incompletions are the most significant barrier to expressing our full creativity in the present. Go on and hunt for any areas of incompletion, large or small, and you will not be disappointed. A burst of creativity will often follow the completion of some long left issue. Clearing up an incompletion gives you a feeling of aliveness that you can get nowhere else.” (Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks)


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